How should she talk to her coach about this?

How should she talk to her coach about this?

My Daughter is playing on a 13’s team and some of the girls seem to be having a problem staying focused. And it is frustrating her. How should she talk to her coach about this?

Jeff BParent, United States of America
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Lee-annes NetballCoach, Australia

this is a tricky answer.  as the way the team functions is definitely a reflection on the way someone coaches.  some coaches like to just have fun and be liked by their team.  some coaches are there to coach and are very strict, as the goal is to win or at least get the best out of the team, as they understand parents have paid good money for their kids to be there.  the really good coaches know how to do both.  

maybe your daughter has joined a team that is not there to do anything but social and have fun.  i understand how frustrating this can be for her as my children have been in the exact same situation.  and honestly, there was no real solution.  she just had the wrong coach for the way she liked to train.  this MAY be the situation.  

if she feels she wants to discuss this with her coach, then she should organise a time to discuss this, as it needs some focus from her coach, and no distractions or big ears from others.  she should sit down and think about what she wants to get out of her sport, and what she wants to learn, and approach the coach with that (instead of just complaining).  if she focuses on herself then she will get a much better response.)  she can ask if this is the right team for her, as it seems that most of the kids just want to socialise and have fun and she wants to work hard and learn.  can he/she make any suggestions.

 the biggest thing you can do to help your daughter is explain to her (if you havent already done so)that she can not change other peoples actions, just her own.  and that maybe after this season is done, that you might find a better team/coach/club more suited for her abilities or dedication.  watch the other teams during the competitions, and see what teams are focused and work well together, without being ruthless.  that is a sign of a good coach leading that team.  

i hope this helps.  my daughter ended quitting her sport that she loved (cheerleading), because of the way the coach let the kids run riot, and my daughter ended up feeling left out, as she never really fit in due to her training ethics.  i hope your sitution doesnt get to this point.  its awesome your daughter wants to be part of the solution to this problem.  it shows a lot of maturity for a young girl.

Ian MarshCoach, England

Great answer Lee-Annes.

How did your daughter get on in the end JeffB?

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